Many people seemed to love my recent mockery of Vince Kelvin. However, I was more than surprised at the level of cognitive dissonance in this "communit". One of the commenters wrote:
The funny part is that there are many guys who are just as deluded as VK, but don't realize it. I was reading a post by Roosh fans, and they were mocking VK... They were saying "oh, when people mock us and our super magical game powers, they're really mocking VK"Those guys are actually just as deluded as VK, but think they're unlike him.
So, let me spell it out for the cognitive dissonance crowd: When I am mocking Vince Kelvin I am obviously mocking one particular guy. However, Vince Kelvin stands for "game" as it is commonly understood. Therefore, by mocking Vince Kelvin I make fun of everyone who does something similar.
If you dress like a clown (or just put on one or two "peacocky" items) If you cold approach like a retard If you "plow" when the girl shows she has absolutely no interest in you If you linger around on the street and prey on girls If you go to a club to "sarge HBs" If you collect phone numbers and think they are an achievement If you "practice approaches" In general: if you stick to "mainstream game" ...then there is a Vince Kelvin in you!
Minimal Game has been out for about three months now, and it was met with an enthusiastic response. I gather reviews and comments on a special section on my website. Because I am proud of the feedback, and want all of you who haven't bought it to get the book too, I'll post some highlights.
If you've already bought Minimal Game, then let me thank you very much for your support. I really appreciate it.
It's to the point, and tells you the truth that gurus have been hiding in order to keep their students in the dark. In other words, it is the most honest book that I've read about picking-up women. —Assanova
I read your book twice through. Of all the pickup books I've read, Minimal Game is the best. Honestly I don't think there was anything I disagreed with. The book stresses a couple fundamentals that almost all other pickup books miss or barely mention. —Jameso
Minimal Game gives you an entirely new outlook on dating. While you might have found it boring and repetitive before (maybe with Mystery Method - heck, Mystery himself said that he finds the "opening" phase boring), it will then become exciting and liberating. —Bumblebee
As most everybody in the scene knows, Aaron Sleazy is the real deal. He's also one of the few people who have invested the tremendous amount of time and energy it takes to master game at an extremely high level. If you don't have the time or the desire to exert the same humongous effort, this book is the perfect guide to the art of seduction: A "Pareto's Principle of Pickup", or how to get 80% of the results with 20% of the work. —Karea
Read it, follow the advice, and get on with your life! It's a fabulous book, it's completely honest, and it will help you. It sure helped me. —Tweetie
The only alpha way to interact with women — straightforward and direct, none of this pussy-whipped timid indirect bullshit, which just encourages you to fear women! —K
Rather than beat around the bush, he went straight for what works. The book is the right size to learn quickly from and then go practice. Many good learnings. Enjoyed reading it! —Krav
It will absolutely help me one hell of a lot in my sexlife. There's little doubt it will do just as well for you, whatever holds you back from achieving your full potential now. Price is 10€, it's worth at least 200. One read-through takes at most two hours of your time. It will save you hundreds. Minimal Game is A+++ recommended. —Paalcopronst
One word book-review: AMAZING! It's like a good short story — there isn't anything unimportant that distracts you from the original storyline. —600mg
I liked the book. It gave me some sense of normality, which I think a lot of people need, when doing something unusual. Written in calm and honest way that manual makes you believe it's absolutely normal to invite girls home on first date and have sex with them, and makes you believe everybody does the same. You just didn't know that. That it's normal. That women want sex a lot, and that's why in a lot of cases you don't even need to use game so much. That some girls are desperate and lonely. And if they aren't into it, probably they are not that interested in sexing you. —Maniakka
I received the book today and I read it tonight. Minimal and no-nonsense are indeed the perfect words to describe it. Minimal Game is a bit like the first Mode One book but even more succinct. This is down and dirty, practical advice, no ramblings about high value or the difference between direct or indirect or multi-threading if you run out of things to say. —Alastor
This lean book of a little over 100 pages is quite simply awesome. It provides a straighforward structure for attracting woman that is entirely realistic. Aaron Sleazy does claim anything ridiculous such as "any man can pull any woman" in fact he states quite blatantly that no man, not even Brad Pitt can pull any woman. In short, he does not try to sell you any bs, rather he provides the elements to form a strong foundation for attracting "the fairer sex." —TLN
The relief and empowerment that you feel after reading Minmal Game will be more than a thousand times worth the very low 'minimal' price of the book because you'll avoid having to spend thousands of dollars on products and trainings that will be much less efficient at telling you what Aaron does in 80 some pages. —Billy
This book aims to set your attitudes and basic convictions on dating straight, and I'll say that it succeeds in doing so. My sex life is getting better pretty fast and it's probably due to this book. —Tormandy
Sleazy's writing style is simple, and he addresses the process from basics to simple steps of initiating interaction to progressing to relationships in this small but precise guide in a clearly understandable style stripped of all Disney elements. This book should be of immense help to guys who appreaciate the normal common sense approach to seducing women than blindly following dogmas that has a poor success rate. A big thanks to Sleazy for writing Minimal Game. Your writings in masf and elsewhere, your books and of course Minimal Game has been quite influential in my love life. —illuzsion
One of the most popular articles on this blog is Vince Kelvin, the Joke is on You! It's easy to see why this is so, because not only does it give an insight into the immense cognitive dissonance that befalls many guys in this community, it's also hilarious to watch the video and go through my comments on selected screenshots.
Vince Kelvin wasn't really on my mind for a long time, but then I stumbled upon a post in which a short PUA claimed that Vince Kelvin was his role model. Funnily enough, that guy posted another video of Vince in field. Well, let's just have a look at it first, and then dissect it.
I really hope none of were impressed by this video. If you were, then fasten your seat belt. In the first scene we see Vince harassing a woman walking on the street. It is apparent that he didn't take my advice from last time, where I mentioned that he should avoid women who are taller than him. Just look at this:
I love how she looks down on him, thinking something along the lines of "What the f*ck is this?" This girl goes by the name of "Lexy", and we'll hear more about her later.
Vince is shadow boxing. The woman is ugly. He doesn't mind.
She stops, but only briefly. Did you notice her body language?
In the next scene, we witness Vince preying on what looks like two schoolgirls. First, he's a very good creep by standing next to a tree and blocking their way as they get closer. They have surely seen him from a mile apart. Subtlety is surely not his strong suit.
"So, there was this guy, and he was just standing there, creeping out all the girls who walked past."
Now Vince realizes that the girls aren't really that hot. He doesn't care.
Oh, look how eager they are to hand out their phone number. Yes, sweetie, it really is 0-4-1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9.
The next interaction blew my socks off as I couldn't understand how anybody can be so blind to the reaction of a girl. First, he approaches this woman, who gives him plenty of signals that indicate that she doesn't like him at all. Women are just less confrontational than men, so they hope that by ignoring him he'll go away. But he won't.
His fabulous "opener" was something like, "This is my bench, I sleep on it every night!" But would really be so sure that he is joking if he said it to you? Maybe Vince should try the "Hey, do you have some change?"-opener as well. I hear it is rather popular in some areas. What is even worse, though, is that he is then pestering this poor woman, like by extending his hand and not figuring out that her looking down might be tantamount to her asking to be left alone:
Seriously, look at this! If you bothered a guy who gave you an indication like that, you'd risk getting punched. Vince, however, seemingly knows absolutely nothing about body language, or just common decency. He's not only embarrassing himself, but the woman too.
Pro-Tip: If a woman carries a lot of stuff, she probably doesn't want to be bothered by some random dude.
Vince Kelvin is a real trooper. No matter what a girl looks like or how (dis-)interested she may be, he takes a shot. Her body language could hardly be more negative:
Even though this girl is fat, she is not desperate enough to appreciate Vince's advances.
Honestly, what is he doing!?
Before we revisit "Lexy", who is certainly proud to be featured in this video, let's have a look at Vince Kelvin's fabulous marketing material. Frankly, at first I thought it was a parody. Look how amateurish this looks:
Yes, he wrote "begun" with a Q!
Thankfully, Vince Kelvin is not only every woman's dream, he also has a subtle sense of humor, as evinced in his statement that he will be "coming in a city near you." Got it bro? Coming, like in "cumming". Bro, did you get it? Bro? That's, like he means he's, like, going to "cum" in our city. Do you get it now, bro? He he! Got it? That smart, bro, isn't it? Isn't this really really smart?
Yo, Vince, I think you put the wrong word in quotation marks.
Vince, Vince, Vince!
But what happened to "Lexy"? Well, here's some more shots:
Oh, they're totally going to hook up. For sure.
No, this won't be going anywhere. Just look at the following shot. Vince harasses her to give him a hug, and it's obvious that she just wants to get away. What I found especially hilarious was that he then jumps up and kisses her on the cheek. Isn't that cute? He's just like a cute little squirrel.
Just looking at this shot, you could be forgiven for thinking that Vince attacks that poor girl.
But wait, there's more! In the comment thread on YouTube, I came across this gem:
So, to make it clear: What Vince received is called a group message. This girl simply sent this to everyone whose number she's got in the phone, and for a party girl this makes absolute sense. I don't quite understand Vince's broken English, but he seemingly wants to say that girls like that are common in his life. So, Vince, do you mean that you occasionally get random text messages that lead to nothing at all, and that you don't mind looking for some random chick at 6 a.m. (because you haven't gotten laid)?
Further, "1xSuperman" doesn't get that "Lexy" actually has rejected him, and so have all the other girls he didn't end up having sex with. Sure, Vince can fool himself by saying that "rejection doesn't existe in my frame of mind", and that "all the girls were very welcoming." I certainly didn't get the impression from this video, which was obviously cherry-picked from countless interactions (hint: why do you think there are cuts if this somehow hadn't been the case?). If anything, they give him a chance to not lose face in public. Think of the girl sitting on the parking bench. He molested her, and she looked down to give him the clear signal that he should piss off. Yet, he doesn't take the hint.
I've got a huge backlog of articles I want to read, and don't get me started on the dozens of books that pile up either on my desk or my Kindle. However, one by one I am getting there. In the next few weeks, I'll hopefully find the time to share some of the wisdom I encounter with you.
The first bit is from the blog FounderZen.com. It's a small personal blog, but the few posts are well worth reading. Besides, Kamal, the guy behind it, is a very interesting person. Especially if you think you are getting old, then have a look at what this guy look like at 40.
Biggest source of pain, of wasted time and effort I can think of. Whatever one does, it matches their version of reality – and in their reality, they’re the good one. In my mind, I’m the primary actor, everyone else the cast. The entire Universe is filtered through me. But the same goes for everyone. I’m a cast member in their play. How can I take anything personally? Costanza was right – “It’s not you, it’s me!”
Let's read this again to let it sink in:
In my mind, I’m the primary actor, everyone else the cast. The entire Universe is filtered through me. But the same goes for everyone. I’m a cast member in their play.
One of my readers left a fantastic comment on my recent post The Final Word on Indirect Game. Without further ado, here's "J" telling you about the important realizations he has made while recovering from mainstream game:
The more and more I move away from game and still hit on women, I am beginning to believe that it really is just looks and types. It is actually quite astonishing. Almost nothing I do makes any difference at all - the girls have already sized me up and made all sorts of conclusions about me based entirely on my appearance and dress. Its quite incredible. While it is true you can *fuck it up*, I really now believe that this is way over-emphasized. What you have to do to fuck it up with a girl who digs you is stuff normal guys rarely do and is extremely unlikely to ever really happen. Basically just dont be a fucking jerk and be fucking normal. Anything beyond that is just over-complication.
In a way this gives me a free, light-hearted spirit when I go clubbing and hitting on girls, as I know there is almost nothing I can do to make it happen OR fuck it up. On the other hand, this truth can be experienced as terribly oppressive because it is incredibly deterministic. It is a truth that really needs to be experienced to be fully absorbed (as I said, it is quite shocking), but it also takes quite a but of courage for most guys to really leave things *up to fate* in this manner.
I fully understand why so many guys kick and scream in their struggle to accept that their chances with women are severely limited by their genetic potential. BUT - if you learn to accept this, you become happy, calm, serene, and free spirited, and social life can become a happy round of pleasure ;)
Sometimes people ask me what I think of this and that guy's “method.” If a name gets mentioned a couple of times, and I have some time to kill, I have a look. Thus, I recently spent an hour or so skimming through Roissy and Roosh’s stuff. If you want to know what I think of it: I’m appalled. It amounts to little more than old indirect game presented in a new veneer. Roissy pretends to be an intellectual, while Roosh believes he is a non-conformist. Apart from that, it’s the same old, same old.
“But what is wrong with indirect game, Sleazy?”, I hear some of you speaking in your feeble voices. I’m glad you asked. Here’s a big one: You pretend that the girl is utterly stupid. While there are certainly plenty of not especially intelligent women out there, just as the world has no shortage of stupid guys, women are not so stupid that they don’t see through your facade. Or why do you think that many women quickly shut you down with your “opinion openers”? It’s because they are not attracted to you. If you look like Fabio in his prime, you could walk around telling “knock-knock” jokes, and all women would be in tears, but if you look like Quasimodo, or Vince Kelvin, then women will hardly give you the time of day. This reminds me of a guy on Zan’s Ars Amatoria forum who stated that he had gotten 2 dates out of approaching roughly 1,000 women on the street. (No, no sex.) Seriously, when will some people realize that whatever they are doing is just not working.
Indirect game operates under the premise that you can “create attraction”, and that women are somehow turned off if you indicate sexual interest too early. However, as every man who is successful with women knows, they are surely turned on by it if they are turned on by you. "Creating attraction" is just another red herring. Sure, if you are part of the 1% and flaunt your wealth, then some women will come, but they are then more interested in your money.
To further illustrate my point, let me refer to the world of comedy. In the middle ages, only “fools” were allowed to say the truth, and likewise, nowadays comedians enjoy the same privilege of telling things you couldn’t otherwise propagate through the mainstream media. If you are vaguely familiar with stand-up comedy, you’ve surely come across Chris Rock. One of this most infamous routines is called “Want some dick?” Here’s a YouTube clip:
In a nutshell, the message is that no matter what you say to a woman, she’ll hear “want some dick”? Of course! Why else would you talk to her? Or do you honestly think that your asking a complete stranger for a “female opinion” can hide potential sexual interest on your part? If you now want to contradict, then why don’t you go around and ask women whom you find physically repulsive for their female opinions and or where chocolate mountain is? See!
But I’m not done yet. One of the current prophets of indirect game is “Roosh.” When he’s not busy exploiting his economic advantage as a Westerner in former communist countries, he writes books and sells them at ridiculous prices. One of his more recent one is called Day Bang, and here is a gem from it:
She’s writing something in beautiful cursive on pages that have floral borders. She’s using what seems to be an expensive ballpoint pen. What’s the elderly opener? In this case there are two possibilities. Your instinct may be to ask, “What are you writing?” but remember, that’s personal in nature and not likely to get a warm response. She may think of you as a nosy man trying to gain access to her closet of secrets. The best elderly opener from this situation is, “Excuse me, is that a good pen?” You’ll then inquire about the brand, the color of the ink, its width, and if it’s comfortable to hold for long periods of time, all with a serious expression on your face. Almost pretend you’re a pen salesman on the first day of the job, doing research in order to eventually sell it to others.
Did you also throw up in your mouth when reading this?
Listen, she’s only interested in talking about inane stuff like that if she finds you attractive. However, you stand a good chance of losing her because she might secretly ask herself what’s wrong with you if you can’t be open about your intentions. No, this doesn’t mean that you should say, “Wanna fuck?”, but that you have no legitimate reason to hide your intention. Well, maybe you are a pussy, so I guess that's one reason. Remember that many of you indirect guys have huge problems turning an interaction sexual? This is a consequence of such pathetic behavior, because if you manage to convince the girl that you have no sexual interest, then she will of course not view you as a potential sexual partner. Do you understand, Neil? Erik? Tyler?
The other big problem with indirect game is that you are only kidding yourself. A common defence is that the woman is not rejecting you. No, she is rejecting your opener (and there is of course nothing wrong with you). No, don’t worry, you don’t have to get in shape, and fix your appearance. The women are only ever rejecting your openers, not you. Everything is fine, keep going! Seriously, do you really believe any of this?
I know that common sense is not common in the “community”, and logic is about as highly regarded as in a circle of 50 year old housewives who add scotch to their afternoon tea and get all giddy when they find some “truth” in their horoscopes. But, honestly, don’t you want to grow up? If it makes you happy, then keep living in your la-la land where all the women only reject your “opener”, and keep rubbing one out to Internet porn. Alternatively, you could grow the fuck up and stop hiding behind lame excuses and rationalizations. Do you know who else acts like this? Shallow, insecure women.
Alek Novy recently made an excellent statement on my forum in a thread on the real success rate of game. I thought it should be shared with a wider audience. It should make some of you guys think.
There's this mentality in the community that it's not "real game" unless you worked your ass off. That if you used something that makes it easier - that it's like "cheating"
I've actually fucking seen guys being lambasted for getting too ripped, coz if they have a sixpack and get laid, then it's"not real game".
I've actually seen a guy who will like meet a super hot lingerie model, like his cousin sets him up with a lingerie model -> and the PUAs will be like"IT DOESN'T COUNT!"
I'm like wtf do you mean it doesn't count. Dick in hot pussy."IT DOESNT COUNT!! she was given to him by a friend"loooool
Here's the dirty secret about community -> It's never ever been about getting laid
If the community were about getting laid, it would include discussions on how to get a career that gets you laid like... If the community were about getting laid, it would teach leverage and crutches itself...
- Fashion Photographer Method - Club Promoter Method - Fitness Modelling and Male Stripper Method - Becoming a minor celebrity in a niche with a crappy band Method
The community has always hated crutches/leverage, because it never WAS about"the most efficient way to get laid". It was always about feeling like you"control and create attraction"
